What the IVF Journey Can Look Like

Inspired by Erin Foster’s story and new show.

By: Pasquale Patrizio, MD

If you’re thinking about fertility treatments like in vitro fertilization (IVF), you may wonder what the experience is really like. IVF can be full of hope, patience, and emotion. With Erin Foster opening up about her own story as her new show premieres, it’s a good time to talk about what this journey can feel like for many people.

It often starts with the big decision – the moment you decide to get help. That choice can bring a mix of relief and nerves. Your care team will guide you through the first tests and help make a plan that fits your unique needs.

From there, the process begins. You may take hormone medicine to help your ovaries make more eggs. There are checkups, blood tests, and ultrasounds to track progress. It takes time and support, but every step is one closer to your goal.

When the eggs are ready, they’re retrieved and combined with sperm in the embryology lab. Doctors and embryologists watch closely as embryos begin to grow. Once everything looks good, one or sometimes two embryos are placed inside the uterus.

Then comes waiting. Those 10 to 12 days after a transfer can feel endless. You might find yourself full of hope one moment and worry the next. Many people say that leaning on loved ones, staying busy, and giving yourself grace can make a big difference.

Sometimes, the first cycle doesn’t work, and that can be really hard. It’s okay to feel sad, frustrated, or even ready for a break. Some people need a little time before trying again, while others move forward right away.

There’s no “right” way, just the one that works best for you.

That’s something writer and producer Erin Foster knows well. Best known for creating the show Nobody Wants This, Foster has been open about her IVF journey, one that included more than 20 rounds of IVF before she and her husband welcomed their daughter, Noa, in May 2024. She’s shared that taking a break during the process helped her reset emotionally and find the strength to keep going.

By sharing her experience, Foster helps others feel less alone and reminds us that IVF can be both challenging and hopeful.

Talking about IVF matters because it breaks down stigma. It helps people understand that fertility challenges are common and not something to hide. Both women and men can face fertility issues and sometimes there’s no clear reason at all. Open conversations make it easier to ask questions, set expectations, and prepare both emotionally and financially. Most importantly, they remind us that taking breaks, asking for help, and leaning on others aren’t signs of weakness, they’re signs of strength.

If you’re thinking about IVF, start by talking with your doctor about your options. Surround yourself with people who lift you up. Take care of your body and your mind, and try to be gentle with yourself along the way.

Every step forward, no matter how small, is a sign of courage.

No two IVF journeys look the same. Some are quick, others take time, and some lead down new paths entirely. What matters most is that you keep hope close and give yourself grace through it all.

If you’re ready to explore your own fertility journey, our specialists are here to guide you with compassion and care. We’ll help you understand your options and support you every step of the way.